When are Men falling in love?

Perhaps this is one of the biggest questions that bother us once we start a relationship. When do we say: 'I love you?' Most times, in the case of both men and women, the feeling appears long time before being expressed. This is because men need to be sure that their feelings are shared by the woman next to them.

We are used to blame men, to accuse them of being available only for love affairs and complain on women forums that there aren't any serious men. The truth is that over 75% of men believe in the existence of a soul mate and if you ask them to choose between the great love of their lives and six months of wild sex, more than 90% will choose love.

Men also need love

Men also need love, loyalty and sexual chemistry. They want to have someone next to them who cares about them and helps them when they need.

Recently I have had a conversation with a friend about relationships versus celibacy. He believes that it is better to be coupled than single, that people are often wrong when they give up a relationship hoping that the next one will be more pleasant; many times, their expectations are wrong. A relationship, even it is not perfect, should be kept, because there is a pretty big chance to be the best relationship you'll ever have, just as it is. Because it's always better to be involved with someone than being single. Does this man seem one who searches only for sexual affairs?

And he is not the only man who thinks this way. Maybe men are not as cynical as we expect. They, why we hear so often that women are those who involve the most into a relationship and who take it to a form of stability while men must be always pushed from the back?

Men are the first who say: 'I love you'

Maybe you didn't know, but more than a half of men declare that usually, they are the first who say: 'I love you' and that, in general, women are the first who discuss about the involvement into a more serious stage of a relationship. What can we deduce from here? That, in fact, men expects some sort of guarantee that their feelings are shared, before making this first step, to express their feelings.

Men are also afraid of rejection

Men and women are equally afraid of rejection, and maybe women should support better the idea of being hurt- they do it every day. Does this surprise you? Think about: who seduces who, who releases the invitation for going out, who calls first, who kisses first, who tells first 'I love you'? Mostly men. And before he gets in touch with a woman, how many other women rejected him before? You would be surprised, but even Johnny Depp has a list of rejections which doesn't makes him feel more man.

But how can you make him feel safe in order to express the magic words? Well, let him know that you're interested in his person, not in his lifestyle. Tell him that you enjoy sharing your time with him, make him a compliment, tell him that he has everything you wish from a man, ask what makes him happy, and make him understand that your relationship has something special. A woman must suggest to a man that he can do the next step, without making him feel that he is forced to do it.