The foreplay: 10 mistakes to avoid

by Andra Picincu

If the act of love would be reduced only to a simple sexual contact, it would be very boring! The foreplay offers a wide range of pleasures, making the difference between a simple love affair and a romantic relationship. Here are the most common mistakes that occur when it comes about the game of love:

1. To believe that the foreplay is optional

The foreplay is required! Without it, we can not make love. It is a must when it comes about sexual stimulation. There are cases when the foreplay takes place in the partners mind, as the brain is the origin of all pleasures, and the simple fact of thinking about your body next to your lover's body can be a powerful stimulant. This type of prelude is practiced in case of fast sex.

2. The very fast foreplay

It is often the great deception of women. Women need time to prepare their body for pleasure. The foreplay doesn't mean only caresses, but also a kiss; kiss each other all over your bodies.

3. Focusing only on sexual areas

The foreplay has a maximum effect if the partners are a little frustrated. Therefore, it isn't good to focus your attention only on the sexual areas; it's better to make small steps to the supreme pleasure.

4. To believe that men do not need foreplay

It's true, women need more, but men also depend on the foreplay to achieve a quality erection and to avoid premature ejaculation. The prelude allows the partners to achieve an intense sexual stimulation.

5. To put pressure on your partner

It is a very frequent mistake of women. He's not the only one who has to take care of you. The best is to be you the first who stimulates him, in order for him to get an erection and to be able to focus on you.

6. To limit the prelude only to a kiss

The kiss is considered by many as being the same as the foreplay. It is a monumental mistake, since we’re speaking about long term relationships. You have to be there for real, to feel your partner every time you touch him, to see him through the eyes of your mind.

7. The lack of knowledge regarding the tertiary erogenous areas

The primary erogenous areas are usually stimulated sexually; the secondary ones are the surroundings and the breasts. But what are the tertiary areas? It’s about body areas with no sexual connotation, but, which, if they are stimulated, increase the sexual excitation. Here are some sensitive areas: behind the knees and elbows, on the face, on the abdomen, on the back.

8. Reducing the prelude to gestures

Caresses, massages, kisses- all these are part of the foreplay. But the sense of touch is just one of the 5 senses we have. The words, the smell, the image of the other who strips in front of you, sharing sensual ideas- are things that increase the libido.

9. To consider the foreplay as being a duty

If the prelude becomes a "conjugal duty", it loses its charm. The art of prelude is the art of having fun. Play together to increase the erotic tension: it is not important to win (to reach the orgasm); what matters is to join the game and to have fun.

10. To offer what you want to receive

The most generous mistake is to caress the other in the way in which you like to be caressed; Of course, the intention is good, but we’re not all alike. Pay attention to the way in which the other touches you, in order to know what he likes. It is mutual, of course.